Shelly

My friend Shelly died yesterday.

It was completely unexpected, like a sucker punch to the midsection, and I read the news while I sipped a perfect cup of coffee on a lovely fall day before I took my kids to school this morning. My response, after getting my breath back, was to let tears roll down my face until....well, they've still not completely stopped.

My husband referred to Shelly as my "not so imaginary" friend. I've known her for 10 years. TEN YEARS. I've only seen her in person once. I've sent Christmas cards for years, and chatted about everything from apples to Afghanistan with her...on the computer.

Here's what she taught me:

1. Live life just a little louder than you think you should.
2. Stand for something, passionately.
3. Forgive those who don't believe the same as you.
4. Pray - to whatever it is that you believe in.
5. Love as hard as you can, as often as you can, because you won't always get the chance to do it on your own terms.

I spoke to another "not so imaginary friend" today, because we are both so stunned. It was awkward to be so sad, and yet delighted that we finally spoke, and I for one, feel more determined than ever to find a opportunity to meet face to face.

To honor Shelly's memory, I plan to do just that.